Walking a Mile in someone else’s shoes

Have you ever looked at someone and saw them living and walking in pure chaos? I did today as I took my daughter to her doctors appointment. I watched a woman and her 5 kids as well as she had a older man with down syndrome with her. I watched her and I wondered…what strife she has gone through in her life to have her in a situation like that.

We sat in the waiting area for awhile with them. It was a busy day at the pediatricians office. So I watched. I watched as she sat there and let all her kids scream, fight, and bite each other (literally).

I watched her let her youngest daughter, maybe two, walk up and hurt her finger in the door and then get upset that her sibling wasn’t watching her…The whole time she was sitting on her phone being nonchalant to her own kids.

I watched her leave and only take one child into the doctors office as she was called back.(Assuming that it was that Child’s appointment)

I watched her leave the oldest of the five girls in charge. the girl was no older then maybe 10 or 12. She had trouble with all the kids running around screaming and had to watch all of them and the grown man with down syndrome. She looked so stressed.

I sat there and it made me want to help. But where I’m from you have to mind your business, especially if you don’t know the people involved, which I did not. You can’t tell someone else how to parent or offer help because people get offended and bothered. She had enough going on without some stranger with a baby chiming in.

I just wonder what happened in her life for her to have that many children and be completely nonchalant about their behavior and to put the responsibility that was hers on her eldest child. Was she stressed out, overwhelmed, or burdened? I don’t know I haven’t walked in her shoes. I’m in no position to judge. I just wonder what life is like for her.

Embarrassing Moment #1

My baby was laughing at someone else pooping…

Yeah I had an embarrassing mom moment. Last week I went to pick my husband up from work (I jacked his car for the day because mine is out of commission currently) and I had to feed my baby.

He was closing up his shop and there was like nobody accept three others on the building so I went to the restroom and proceeded to breastfeed. 5 minutes goes by and someone walks into the stall next to mine.(The kind of stalls you can’t see under)

I don’t think she knew we were in there but she proceeded to do her business and with comical sounds made all the flatulent and “plop” sounds.

I stayed quiet…my baby did not!!!!!

My baby then unlatched and started laughing from hearing the sounds and started hitting the toilet paper holder so it was now known that the other lady was not alone.

I really hope she didn’t see my house shoes on the way past her stall because I couldn’t wait to scoop up my baby and evacuate the premises.

Becoming A New Father

Three months ago I have been blessed to gain a new edition to my family. I’ve been blessed with a baby girl. Thus far, it has been quite the trip being a father, but it’s been a fun one. Her name is Sophia!

Finding Her Voice

Just a few weeks ago, she began to make noise from what her mother and I believe that she’s trying to speak. She flexes the muscles of her lips and she gives us a very cute sigh. She does this repetitively as she gets excited that we are speaking back to us. Every morning before I wake up for work, she wakes up before I do and she’s giving me a nice smile and a sigh. It’s the cutest thing to wake up to in the morning.

She Sleeps

She does a fantastic job with sleeping at night. She’s a very quiet baby and it’s awesome! Everyone always says how blessed I am to have a baby that sleeps. Before she was born, maybe about 3 to 4 weeks prior, my fiancé and I had alarms set about every couple of hours to get just a taste of what it would be like to wake up every so often. I’m very thankful that we came up with the idea because believe it or not we have to wake her up to eat and get her changed. The only time she really cries or lets anything out is when she’s really uncomfortable or when she’s getting changed. I’ve never seen a baby cry because they had to be changed. Normally I’ve seen babies cry so that they can be changed but finish once it’s all over. But I’m very blessed she keeps us asleep for most of the night.

I will be checking back in with you guys at least once every two weeks about Sophia and her progress and maybe post some pictures and videos with her soon!

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If anyone has any advice for new parents please let me know! Leave a comment and tell me how your experience as a new father/mother went with your first child!