6 Ways To cope with Bad Mental Health

Nobody wants to talk about touchy subjects like post partum depression, suicide, depression, anxiety, or anything regarding mental health. But it needs to be talked about. How do you cope with it?

I personally suffer from post partum depression, anxiety, and paranoia and here are a couple of ways that I cope with it that may help you too.

Seek Help From Your Doctor

The best thing that you can do if you are having any of these issues and you are aware that there is a problem is to talk to your doctor. Your doctor is the best person to diagnose and help you in coping mechanisms to help your situation.

If need be, a doctor can prescribe medicine, refer you for therapy, or help you by suggesting activities that lower stress and anxiety.

Be Open To New Activities

One thing that definitely helped me was finding new ways to keep my mind busy. I tend to dwell on all the negative thoughts when I’m depressed so anything that gets my mind off of those thoughts helps.

You could do things like read a book, watch a movie, take a walk, pick up a hobby like crafting or baking. Anything that makes you feel better and brings a little joy to your life.

Take Care Of yourself

I don’t care what anyone says, appearance and how you feel definitely affects how you act and think. It never hurts to take care of your body and mind.There’s so many things that you can do to just boost your moral even if it’s for a couple of hours.

Go have a spa day, take a relaxing bath/shower, get your hair done or your beard trimmed up, Put on makeup, or put on a nice outfit. The list is endless, if you look good and feel good physically it definitely helps your overall attitude and outlook on the day.

Be Productive For a Positive Outcome

Keeping your mind busy is an excellent way to help your mind from slipping into undesirable thoughts. *I don’t mean ignore any serious issues by any means.

However instead of brooding over crazy thoughts you could do chores, work out, or go grocery shopping. This kind of goes hand in hand with having new activities, except your not doing it to just keep your mind busy, your doing it to get an end result that gives physical benefits. You do chores to have a clean home, work out for a better body, and go grocery shopping so that you have food.

For example I started to blog, which for me keeps my mind busy and gives me a daily goal as well as indirect social interaction. That benefits me because I don’t have to leave the comfort zone of my home just to socialize or vent my frustrations. My end result is I was able to socialize and find therapy in venting.

Whatever you decide as long as it brings a positive benefit for you. It doesn’t have to be anything special it can be just normal activities of daily living.

Vent

One thing that I would recommend is finding a way to vent your frustrations. Anything to get how your feeling out of your head.

Go to a therapist, vent to a friend, write your thoughts in a journal, write a book, blog, paint/draw, create art, or vlog.

Some people when they vlog or blog even take away the comments section of their post so that they don’t have to deal with others negatively regarding their personal issue. That is an option as well if that helps.

1-800-273-8255 NSPL Hotline

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

If you are having any suicide thoughts or tendencies or feel like a physical threat to yourself or anyone else I urge you to call the hotline and seek help.

Please don’t take any harmful actions towards yourself or anyone else, if all else fails please know that the hotline is always open if you need guidance, or someone to talk to.

If you or a friend knows of someone who is having harmful tendencies please seek guidance from the hotline, or a doctor. If the situation is dire to the point where you can no longer keep contact with someone that is having these tendencies please call your local authorities to do a wellness check on them, you just might save a life…

  • You can call, visit the website, or do online chat with real individuals that are trained to help. If you visit the website there are multitudes of more in depth information that you or someone you may know might find helpful.

P.S.

I am not a licensed doctor or therapist these are not diagnoses they are just some things that helped me personally and I thought that it might help someone else who is trying to find a way to get through the rough thoughts and dark times in their life.

Personal Noise Pollution

There are so many things that create noise pollution but I don’t think they all are bad.

When I say personal noise pollution I’m talking about mentally for people as individuals. Not like city noises that get in the way of your work. I don’t know if there’s an actual name for it though, if there is please let me know.

For me sometimes when too many sounds are going on at once I get information overload. Like when you have multiple people talking to you at once and you can’t focus or comprehend and it makes you mad or feel chaotic. Too much at once…As the Artsy madwoman (a YouTuber I watch) says…too much muchness.

But on the other end of the spectrum, I suffer from depression bouts and silence bothers me. Being alone in a room full of people bothers me. It’s like leaving my mind to its own devices. My mind takes things to the point of overthinking and over exaggeration. So sometimes it’s really nice to have the distraction of someone to talk to, hearing street sounds, or blaring music. It drowns out the negative depressive thoughts.

What is personal noise pollution for you? Is it good or bad? Or both….

Boys/ Men Go Through Shit Too

It’s important that the world doesn’t forget about what men have to go through in life. As a woman I would never downplay the severity and multitude of issues women have faced in the past and present. Such as women wanting the same rights and pay as men, rape, or stigmatization in society of being delicate emotional beings.

But let’s not forget that men go through shit too.

  • Young boys are sexually, physically, and mentally abused too.
  • There are single/ widowed fathers who do everything for their kids with little to no help.
  • Men get depressed and have anxiety too.
  • Men can have postpartum depression and separation anxiety from their babies and spouses.
  • And so much more…

There’s so many other things that they go through that go unacknowledged and ignored. Just like women they are very unappreciated in many ways. They are damned if they do and damned if they don’t.

Just because they are men does not mean that they are supposed to just deal with whatever is thrown at them without complaint. Not everyone can be hard core and non feeling, not even men. But, that is the stigma.

  • Men work and provide for their family and be the sole provider
  • Boys are weak if they cry or show emotions
  • Boys/ men can’t wear certain colors or be apart of certain activities without being judged or thought of as “Less than normal”

Sound off in the comments…

Why can’t the world accept men and women alike?

What are some stigmas placed on men that you can think of?

What kind of things do men go through that gets downplayed?

I Can’t Miss You If You Don’t Leave!!

Us moms have an issue with letting go and taking time for ourselves. There’s always an excuse as to why we can’t do something we actually want to do. You can mess up your relationship like that though.

I think more ladies need to hear the phrase “Go pamper yourself”. As a relatively new mom I know I find it harder and harder to just do the normal upkeep with myself that I did prior to having a baby.

Things like getting my nails and I brows done, going out to eat with friends, combing my hair and looking nice when I go out, or even just hanging out and taking a bubble bath WITHOUT rubber duckies and a baby involved.

This didn’t personally ruin my relationship with my husband or other people but it certainly makes things a little harder. Not taking time for yourself can make things tense with other people. At least for me it was like my baby and husband are always around me and I can never get a break from them. But, whenever I did get a break I wouldn’t feel normal without them and I would be anxious and borderline paranoid.

This led me to an asshole…

I was getting irritated with my husband, my patience became short with my baby, and for a long time I didn’t even like myself. I actually hated myself very much because I felt like I was once this beautiful, confident young lady and now because I was a mother I couldn’t be a mom and still look like a hot mama. I still get emotional about this from time to time too.

Call me vain if you will but looking and feeling nice helps the new momma keep her sanity. That goes for any new mom not just myself.

I hope all the moms take some time for themselves, lord knows we all need it.

If you could do one thing to make yourself feel better or be more confident right now what would it be?

2020 Habits

New Year who dis?…I am not setting goals this year or saying “New year new me” that’s a whole bunch of bullshit!

I am however changing my life habits. If I change my habits instead of setting goals I feel like it will change me more personally. Why? If you really think about it when someone sets goals and they achieve that goal they just set another even higher goal. Which is fine and dandy but it’s freaking stressful to keep putting large expectations on yourself.

I have blog goals on my post My Top 10 Personal Blog Goals and yes while they are some “Goals” of mine I am not basing it strictly on what I want to change about myself or giving myself a deadline.

I do plan on changing my everyday habits though. I have a bad habit of procrastination, laziness, and finding excuses to not do what I really want to do (I have a fear of judgment by the people close to me so I tend to psych myself out quite often). I am actively trying to take steps to improving this and not being so lazy and finding reasons to not do what I like and putting things off. I can’t be a better me for myself, my husband, or our daughter if I just set unrealistic life goals. But, I can start somewhere and improve little things. Like add an exercise to my day, make a “To do” list and try to complete everything on it to my best capability, or just find something to make me smile (that’s a big one that I want to make happen more).

What are your bad habits? What kind of habits do you want to have?

No Holiday Spirit

This year I did take about a week from actually posting anything to my blog. “WHY?” you might ask…

This year during Christmas was really hard for me personally. This year I found myself mourning the loss of my loved ones and not being able to really get into the holiday spirit. Every time I turned around I was overwhelmed with everything going on around me like it was information overload.

This Christmas I also realized that now it is my turn to take care of my parents instead of them taking care of me. They raised me and after I moved out at 18 we lived through life pretty normally. But this year is different. With the loss of my grandparents, my parents have stopped taking care of themselves. They are older, one is almost 50 and the other almost 70 , it’s complicated, but with the deaths of my grandparents they have stopped eating and kind of lost will for their own lives. So now it is my turn to take care of them. Which is wild to me because it feels like just yesterday I was a kid and I thought that they were invincible.

I didn’t get writers block and just stop posting…life happened and I really needed a mental moment for myself so for that I hope my readers understand.

I am so appreciative of everything and everyone that I gained this year. Also that much more appreciative for everything and everyone I lost. For all that I have gained and lost in my 2019 journey I am thankful.

Much Love,

Ricky