HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

Here in the midwest there is snow on the ground, clear Skys, and it’s 12 degrees, hence the frosty picture, but none the less it’s a good day. I want to take a moment to show my love for my WordPress family and wish you all a very Happy Valentines Day.

I know some people may not like Valentines whether they don’t have a date or because it’s a commercial holiday, but I think that it’s just another reason to show love.

So hug and kiss your family, your pets, give love to the lady you always see at Walmart, or just show yourself love and pamper yourself with a night or R&R.

Whatever you decide to do and who to do it with please know that I am so appreciative to my blog community. I love you guys, be safe and I’ll talk to you later in my Quote Of The Day.

Until then I’ll be spending my day with my love (my husband) and my little love (my daughter)

Adieu,

Ricky Talks

Don't Stop Until Your Proud Of Yourself

Whatever you aspire in your life DO IT! It can literally be anything at anytime. Live your life to the fullest and make yourself proud. You don’t have to please everyone but you should at least make yourself happy by doing things to make yourself happy, things you can find your own passion in.

What makes you proud to be yourself?

What do you love about yourself?

Respecting The Value Of A Life

Life is fleeting and many people take it for granted Many people have no respect for mortality even though it can be ripped right from underneath us as quickly as it was given. Tomorrow is never promised so we should all be respectful for the time that we have already spent.

I replied this to a fellow blogger regarding Kobe Bryants unfortunate death and my own honest words moved me to the point of writing about what I had said.

It took me awhile to figure out in what words should I regard this topic.

I just feel like people do not respect the value of a life, a soul, a being that walks this earth. Very few care about their neighbors let alone family and friends. So many disrespect their own life’s and others by not taking care of themselves. It’s one thing to have medication prescribed by a doctor or drink a glass of wine to relax or even to have a disease like addiction. It’s a whole different ball game when people start drinking and using drugs to an excessive point to show off for social media or gain popularity. That to me seems silly and a waste of someones life to destroy themselves for “FUN”.

There are other situations that made me want to touch this topic too. Like gang banging…There was a situation in my city regarding gang affiliations and a 21 year old was gunned down. When the suspect turned himself in he said he had shot and killed the unarmed young man because he was intimidated by him. No other reason, no previous issue with the man, they didn’t even really know each other. Yet he was still able to carelessly take someone else’s life without any regard that the young man was someone’s brother, son, nephew, and friend.

Even pollution made me think about life because nobody ever thinks the container that they threw away could possibly kill an animal or get stuck clear across the world in sewage right in front of someone’s home.

Every action we make has tidal wave effect and can create a strain of events that can impact someone or something else’s life. But not enough people care as long as they get to do whatever they want and nothing negatively impacts them. It’s ok as long as it’s not their problem.

This is our sad world that doesn’t respect life. The lord can giveth and he can taketh away. Life will come and go but it’s how you use and respect it that gives it value.

What makes life valuable to you?

Sometimes The Past Hurts

Regrets, Infidelity, grieving, PTSD, What was in the dark shall always come to light…

I find that I’m very fortunate to live the life that I live. I am so very thankful for the people who helped me get to where I am and and the people who will help me get to where I’m going.

I am young, I don’t know everything, but I know sometimes past events hurt. Sometimes I have random moments where hurt feelings, bad intentions, or trauma pop into my head. I don’t know if it’s apart of depression or just because I’m over what happened but that doesn’t take the damage that’s already been done away.

Sometimes the bad things creep in my mind and it just hurts. Even my own past actions, or finding out something that happened before me and my husband were together.

Just like some things move my heart positively and lift my spirits high, there are things that just hurt my heart to the core and make my throat swell every time I think about it.

It’s almost like an addicts relapse, anything can trigger it and it isn’t intentional.

How do you cope when the past hurt creeps in?

If you could go back in time, would you do everything the same?

Years pass and we learn from our mistakes or let them take us down. But, would we make those mistakes again if we knew then what we know now.

My husband and I talked about our past today and he asked me if I knew then, when we got together, what I know now, 4 years in, would I do it all the same.

Because he would….

I would…but I wouldn’t… I can’t say for sure that my 16-17 year old self would decide to be with him if I knew what all it took to get to where we are today. But, if I could talk to my younger self I’d tell her to do it but take her time.

I would be a parent to myself and tell her to take her time and figure out who she was before getting serious with a young man. I would tell her to learn more about her spouse and set boundaries to prevent the worst outcomes and gain mutual respect. I’d tell her to live on her own before moving in with her boyfriend and becoming a mother.

Love has no time limit so I’d tell her to really take the time to grow love and not rush to be a wife and mother before she got a chance to be herself.

If you could go back in time and re-do something what would it be and why?

If you could give advice to your younger self what would it be?

Quote Of The Day

The outcasts of society are those who have Been lost to hard Times of many kinds. We do not know their stories of how they became the way they are therefore we should not throw stones at someone else’s glass home.

Be gentle and kind to others.

The homeless man could have lost his job and home out of no fault of his own.

That teenager who is overweight may have a health issue that they can’t control.

The child who is screaming in the store may not be spoiled but could have autism and be frustrated in a communication barrier.

We do not know the story behind those who seem worse off then us. So instead of judging we should love them anyways whether they are like us or not.

Personal Noise Pollution

There are so many things that create noise pollution but I don’t think they all are bad.

When I say personal noise pollution I’m talking about mentally for people as individuals. Not like city noises that get in the way of your work. I don’t know if there’s an actual name for it though, if there is please let me know.

For me sometimes when too many sounds are going on at once I get information overload. Like when you have multiple people talking to you at once and you can’t focus or comprehend and it makes you mad or feel chaotic. Too much at once…As the Artsy madwoman (a YouTuber I watch) says…too much muchness.

But on the other end of the spectrum, I suffer from depression bouts and silence bothers me. Being alone in a room full of people bothers me. It’s like leaving my mind to its own devices. My mind takes things to the point of overthinking and over exaggeration. So sometimes it’s really nice to have the distraction of someone to talk to, hearing street sounds, or blaring music. It drowns out the negative depressive thoughts.

What is personal noise pollution for you? Is it good or bad? Or both….