Update On Ricky Talks

Long story short my baby girl just turned nine months and we had four different appointments on four different days. I had important family matters that I had to attend to away fro home so I did not have my laptop to upload. Needless to say it was a extremely busy and mentally exhausting week for me, my husband, and my little one.

But the show must go on!

I will try to pick up my speed and catch up on other blogs and the Community as well as get back to my posts and Quote of the day series.

Until next time,

Ricky.

6 Ways To cope with Bad Mental Health

Nobody wants to talk about touchy subjects like post partum depression, suicide, depression, anxiety, or anything regarding mental health. But it needs to be talked about. How do you cope with it?

I personally suffer from post partum depression, anxiety, and paranoia and here are a couple of ways that I cope with it that may help you too.

Seek Help From Your Doctor

The best thing that you can do if you are having any of these issues and you are aware that there is a problem is to talk to your doctor. Your doctor is the best person to diagnose and help you in coping mechanisms to help your situation.

If need be, a doctor can prescribe medicine, refer you for therapy, or help you by suggesting activities that lower stress and anxiety.

Be Open To New Activities

One thing that definitely helped me was finding new ways to keep my mind busy. I tend to dwell on all the negative thoughts when I’m depressed so anything that gets my mind off of those thoughts helps.

You could do things like read a book, watch a movie, take a walk, pick up a hobby like crafting or baking. Anything that makes you feel better and brings a little joy to your life.

Take Care Of yourself

I don’t care what anyone says, appearance and how you feel definitely affects how you act and think. It never hurts to take care of your body and mind.There’s so many things that you can do to just boost your moral even if it’s for a couple of hours.

Go have a spa day, take a relaxing bath/shower, get your hair done or your beard trimmed up, Put on makeup, or put on a nice outfit. The list is endless, if you look good and feel good physically it definitely helps your overall attitude and outlook on the day.

Be Productive For a Positive Outcome

Keeping your mind busy is an excellent way to help your mind from slipping into undesirable thoughts. *I don’t mean ignore any serious issues by any means.

However instead of brooding over crazy thoughts you could do chores, work out, or go grocery shopping. This kind of goes hand in hand with having new activities, except your not doing it to just keep your mind busy, your doing it to get an end result that gives physical benefits. You do chores to have a clean home, work out for a better body, and go grocery shopping so that you have food.

For example I started to blog, which for me keeps my mind busy and gives me a daily goal as well as indirect social interaction. That benefits me because I don’t have to leave the comfort zone of my home just to socialize or vent my frustrations. My end result is I was able to socialize and find therapy in venting.

Whatever you decide as long as it brings a positive benefit for you. It doesn’t have to be anything special it can be just normal activities of daily living.

Vent

One thing that I would recommend is finding a way to vent your frustrations. Anything to get how your feeling out of your head.

Go to a therapist, vent to a friend, write your thoughts in a journal, write a book, blog, paint/draw, create art, or vlog.

Some people when they vlog or blog even take away the comments section of their post so that they don’t have to deal with others negatively regarding their personal issue. That is an option as well if that helps.

1-800-273-8255 NSPL Hotline

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

If you are having any suicide thoughts or tendencies or feel like a physical threat to yourself or anyone else I urge you to call the hotline and seek help.

Please don’t take any harmful actions towards yourself or anyone else, if all else fails please know that the hotline is always open if you need guidance, or someone to talk to.

If you or a friend knows of someone who is having harmful tendencies please seek guidance from the hotline, or a doctor. If the situation is dire to the point where you can no longer keep contact with someone that is having these tendencies please call your local authorities to do a wellness check on them, you just might save a life…

  • You can call, visit the website, or do online chat with real individuals that are trained to help. If you visit the website there are multitudes of more in depth information that you or someone you may know might find helpful.

P.S.

I am not a licensed doctor or therapist these are not diagnoses they are just some things that helped me personally and I thought that it might help someone else who is trying to find a way to get through the rough thoughts and dark times in their life.

Walking a Mile in someone else’s shoes

Have you ever looked at someone and saw them living and walking in pure chaos? I did today as I took my daughter to her doctors appointment. I watched a woman and her 5 kids as well as she had a older man with down syndrome with her. I watched her and I wondered…what strife she has gone through in her life to have her in a situation like that.

We sat in the waiting area for awhile with them. It was a busy day at the pediatricians office. So I watched. I watched as she sat there and let all her kids scream, fight, and bite each other (literally).

I watched her let her youngest daughter, maybe two, walk up and hurt her finger in the door and then get upset that her sibling wasn’t watching her…The whole time she was sitting on her phone being nonchalant to her own kids.

I watched her leave and only take one child into the doctors office as she was called back.(Assuming that it was that Child’s appointment)

I watched her leave the oldest of the five girls in charge. the girl was no older then maybe 10 or 12. She had trouble with all the kids running around screaming and had to watch all of them and the grown man with down syndrome. She looked so stressed.

I sat there and it made me want to help. But where I’m from you have to mind your business, especially if you don’t know the people involved, which I did not. You can’t tell someone else how to parent or offer help because people get offended and bothered. She had enough going on without some stranger with a baby chiming in.

I just wonder what happened in her life for her to have that many children and be completely nonchalant about their behavior and to put the responsibility that was hers on her eldest child. Was she stressed out, overwhelmed, or burdened? I don’t know I haven’t walked in her shoes. I’m in no position to judge. I just wonder what life is like for her.

Are you willing to change what your doing now in order to make a positive difference in your life? If given the opportunity would you take that chance?

Say what you want but nothing begets nothing. Meaning if you put nothing and no effort in you will get nothingness in return.

To change the rut you are in you have to change your outlook and what your doing.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different outcome. You cannot do the same things you’ve been doing and expect a gracious outcome. If you do nothing then nothing will ever happen.

What changes are you willing to make to be a better you or have a better outcome in your life?

What or who lights up your world?

Ohhhh man…

For a long time in my life it was nothing. Nothing was spectacular, nothing was special, I was going day by day.

Then my husband came back into my life my senior year of high school. It gave me an extra oomf to live. A reason to look nice and do nice things. He gave me a reason in that time of my life.

After awhile we weren’t enough for each other. We almost didn’t make it. He was going to allow things to crumble and I was going to allow him to leave. You can’t keep someone/something if it doesn’t want to be kept.

But then we tried with each other again, one last time.

The VERY next day I found out I was pregnant, and our worlds became one again. So to answer the question my husband is the apple of my eye but my child is the light of my life, and I’m sure it’s the same way for him.

What/who lights up your world? Why?

Don’t Let Fear Decide Your Future

Fear is as fear does. How can you move forward in life if you are always scared? Yeah you may be scared to proceed with something that you want to do but if you don’t try you’ve failed before you started.

There will always be fails after trying. It’s only natural. You have to fail a couple times to succeed in whatever you want to do.

But if you let your fear of failure stop you in your tracks, you will stay stagnant in your life and won’t know the luxury of moving forward and bettering yourself.

Please don’t let your fears halt your future from being great like it should be.

If You Woke Up With No fear, What Would You Do First?

I would start a Youtube Channel or start a non waste soap/bathbomb/candle business…What about you?

If I were to wake up tomorrow with absolutely no fears whatsoever I would start up my YouTube channel. The crazy part is that I already have a channel set up and ready to go but I’ve second guessed myself and now I don’t know what I want to do for videos.

The plan that I had was set up videos and do postpartum workout videos…But then I had my baby and I got self conscious and I was always tired. You know…The basic excuses.

OR…I would start up a non waste environmentally friendly soap, bath bomb business, and candle business. I actually had set money aside to do so but I found out I was pregnant and I had to move into my husbands mothers house to help her financially as well as spend time with his grandmother before she had passed away, she passed away in August 2019…7 months after we moved in.

If you didn’t already know preparing for a baby, moving, and still having bills cost a lot of money. So there went all my savings for my business.

So If I woke up and had no fears, the very first things I would do is start my YouTube and my business. PERIOD. POINT. BLANK

What would you do if you woke up with no fear? Why?

What do you think I should do? Any advice?

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

Here in the midwest there is snow on the ground, clear Skys, and it’s 12 degrees, hence the frosty picture, but none the less it’s a good day. I want to take a moment to show my love for my WordPress family and wish you all a very Happy Valentines Day.

I know some people may not like Valentines whether they don’t have a date or because it’s a commercial holiday, but I think that it’s just another reason to show love.

So hug and kiss your family, your pets, give love to the lady you always see at Walmart, or just show yourself love and pamper yourself with a night or R&R.

Whatever you decide to do and who to do it with please know that I am so appreciative to my blog community. I love you guys, be safe and I’ll talk to you later in my Quote Of The Day.

Until then I’ll be spending my day with my love (my husband) and my little love (my daughter)

Adieu,

Ricky Talks

Don’t Stop Until Your Proud Of Yourself

Whatever you aspire in your life DO IT! It can literally be anything at anytime. Live your life to the fullest and make yourself proud. You don’t have to please everyone but you should at least make yourself happy by doing things to make yourself happy, things you can find your own passion in.

What makes you proud to be yourself?

What do you love about yourself?

Respecting The Value Of A Life

Life is fleeting and many people take it for granted Many people have no respect for mortality even though it can be ripped right from underneath us as quickly as it was given. Tomorrow is never promised so we should all be respectful for the time that we have already spent.

I replied this to a fellow blogger regarding Kobe Bryants unfortunate death and my own honest words moved me to the point of writing about what I had said.

It took me awhile to figure out in what words should I regard this topic.

I just feel like people do not respect the value of a life, a soul, a being that walks this earth. Very few care about their neighbors let alone family and friends. So many disrespect their own life’s and others by not taking care of themselves. It’s one thing to have medication prescribed by a doctor or drink a glass of wine to relax or even to have a disease like addiction. It’s a whole different ball game when people start drinking and using drugs to an excessive point to show off for social media or gain popularity. That to me seems silly and a waste of someones life to destroy themselves for “FUN”.

There are other situations that made me want to touch this topic too. Like gang banging…There was a situation in my city regarding gang affiliations and a 21 year old was gunned down. When the suspect turned himself in he said he had shot and killed the unarmed young man because he was intimidated by him. No other reason, no previous issue with the man, they didn’t even really know each other. Yet he was still able to carelessly take someone else’s life without any regard that the young man was someone’s brother, son, nephew, and friend.

Even pollution made me think about life because nobody ever thinks the container that they threw away could possibly kill an animal or get stuck clear across the world in sewage right in front of someone’s home.

Every action we make has tidal wave effect and can create a strain of events that can impact someone or something else’s life. But not enough people care as long as they get to do whatever they want and nothing negatively impacts them. It’s ok as long as it’s not their problem.

This is our sad world that doesn’t respect life. The lord can giveth and he can taketh away. Life will come and go but it’s how you use and respect it that gives it value.

What makes life valuable to you?