I Can’t Miss You If You Don’t Leave!!

Us moms have an issue with letting go and taking time for ourselves. There’s always an excuse as to why we can’t do something we actually want to do. You can mess up your relationship like that though.

I think more ladies need to hear the phrase “Go pamper yourself”. As a relatively new mom I know I find it harder and harder to just do the normal upkeep with myself that I did prior to having a baby.

Things like getting my nails and I brows done, going out to eat with friends, combing my hair and looking nice when I go out, or even just hanging out and taking a bubble bath WITHOUT rubber duckies and a baby involved.

This didn’t personally ruin my relationship with my husband or other people but it certainly makes things a little harder. Not taking time for yourself can make things tense with other people. At least for me it was like my baby and husband are always around me and I can never get a break from them. But, whenever I did get a break I wouldn’t feel normal without them and I would be anxious and borderline paranoid.

This led me to an asshole…

I was getting irritated with my husband, my patience became short with my baby, and for a long time I didn’t even like myself. I actually hated myself very much because I felt like I was once this beautiful, confident young lady and now because I was a mother I couldn’t be a mom and still look like a hot mama. I still get emotional about this from time to time too.

Call me vain if you will but looking and feeling nice helps the new momma keep her sanity. That goes for any new mom not just myself.

I hope all the moms take some time for themselves, lord knows we all need it.

If you could do one thing to make yourself feel better or be more confident right now what would it be?

4 thoughts on “I Can’t Miss You If You Don’t Leave!!

  1. When my daughter was a baby, toddler, to give my wife a break I would bundle up the baby and take her to visit her great-grandmother.
    Sometimes I would tell my wife to go shopping just so I could sit on the floor with my daughter and play with her toys with her. I would let her just have fun covering the floor with all her toys.

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